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LUMINOUS SPIRIT
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Posted - 2014.07.02 14:59:00 -
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Who do some people have the need to to post the most private details of their personal life on public forums?
I notice this a lot especially in north American culture - every little detail, first thing a lot of people do is post on all the forums about it. Never mind that a lot of people dont care, or dont want to know, or it might bring up unwanted memories.
What happened to notions of privacy and friends? If you got married, sick, cured, divorced, whatever, tell your friends about it by all means - but why tell strangers? And why do it on a computer game forum of all places?
I mean there are mailing lists, tools to manage friends, corp, alliance mails, regular emails, facebook - use those, its not that hard.
For example - the post here about someone having cancer surgery. Thats great, best of luck to that guy, but do I want to know about it? My grandma has cancer, my friend has cancer, and my best friends mom had breast cancer surgery recently - I do NOT want to be reminded about 3 people I know that might still die. And I do not go asking for support of random people on a computer game forum either - its my details, I do not go burdening others with them.
This is a forum for a computer game, not a board for cancer support. This is best done on facebook or some such.
It may sound harsh, but public means respecting other's right NOT to be informed of personal details of certain nature. Im not being hateful or anything, I just dont want to know about certain things. And there is a reason why certain topics are off limits in the EULA.
Please keep topics here in general direction of EVE. |

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Posted - 2014.07.02 15:09:00 -
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Rumple Tugly wrote:Don't read it if it bothers you?
the title was misleading - i thought it was related to some close call with a super or a titan or some such.. |

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Posted - 2014.07.02 15:12:00 -
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Mythrandier wrote:So, because you dont want to be reminded of unhappy thoughts, people who are going through a life threatening illness cannot seek the support of this fine community we have built?
But why do it in general discussion? There are out-of-pod forums for real life things, for example. Keep it to appropriate channels so that others who wish NOT to be informed, can avoid reading unnecessary posts. To do it in General Discussions is... not right. |

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Posted - 2014.07.02 15:17:00 -
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Solecist Project wrote:
You need to be removed, LS.
Come remove me then. It would involve leaving high-sec however. And you would need more then a catalyst . |

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Posted - 2014.07.02 15:20:00 -
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De'Veldrin wrote:LUMINOUS SPIRIT wrote:Mythrandier wrote:So, because you dont want to be reminded of unhappy thoughts, people who are going through a life threatening illness cannot seek the support of this fine community we have built?
But why do it in general discussion? There are out-of-pod forums for real life things, for example. Keep it to appropriate channels so that others who wish NOT to be informed, can avoid reading unnecessary posts. To do it in General Discussions is... not right. Then report it and let the mods handle it instead of shitting up the forums with yet another useless thread.
fair enough. |

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Posted - 2014.07.02 15:43:00 -
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Christina Project wrote:Graabeerd Khagah wrote:Mythrandier wrote:So, because you dont want to be reminded of unhappy thoughts, people who are going through a life threatening illness cannot seek the support of this fine community we have built?
**** off. I agree with you sir, when I wrote about my victory over cancer last year, did I whine, did I cry omigawd I'm gonna die, did I beg for money for fully paid services I recieved?? The answer is a BIG RESOUNDING NO!! Did I make new friends and gained support while I was dealing with the situation at hand?? A BIG YES!! @LS, OP I think you need to sit back and realize and see that even if we are cold hearted in space on the outside, it's in the heart and soul of all of us that REALLY TRULY CARES!! Except that this pile of **** doesn't care about anything than itself.
...said an anonymous alt of a troll with the clear intent to get the thread locked. |

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Posted - 2014.07.02 15:52:00 -
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Concord Guy's Cousin wrote:LUMINOUS SPIRIT wrote:...said an anonymous alt of a troll with the clear intent to get the thread locked. How is it an anonymous alt if everybody knows whose alt it is? Me on the other hand, I am an anonymous alt 
touche.  |

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Posted - 2014.07.02 16:10:00 -
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Gully Alex Foyle wrote:LUMINOUS SPIRIT wrote:Why do some people have the need to to post the most private details of their personal life on public forums? Honestly? I don't know. But if there's a 1% chance that one - or more - real people, with nasty sh*t going on in their life, will get some kind of help or comfort from a kind reply, I'll gladly post it. LUMINOUS SPIRIT wrote:I do NOT want to be reminded about 3 people I know that might still die I get it, but you might as well rage at a TV break about cancer research fundraising. Things like cancer suck balls, but a chance to help somebody is worth the unpleasantness of reminding everybody that this sh*t exists. In my very personal opinion, at least.
Where do you draw the line though?
Cancer support messages - allowed. What about other diseases? Thats valid right, people are suffering and need support? Ok. What about other stuff? Divorces, breakups? Again, people are suffering, need support. What about someone breaking an arm or a leg? Again, suffering, pain - need support!
What about someone having a bad day?
How long before this deteriorates into meaningless mush? Is a statement of support from a serial support alt worth anything?
No.
I see your point of course, and its valid, but a line has to be drawn. Im of the opinion that personal stuff should be kept in a specific subsection of the forums at least, to keep the forums focused on specific topics and nothing more.
It would be a good idea for CCP to introduce a new forum, call it Births, Deaths, Celebrations and Memorials, and keep personal stuff there for those of us who do want to get deeply involved with the community on a more personal basis.
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Posted - 2014.07.02 16:12:00 -
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Kijo Rikki wrote:For a moment, put yourself in their shoes. Maybe they don't get along with family, maybe they don't have very many if any friends. Or maybe, they can't be near family and friends.
Maybe they are a forum regular here and in a way, we are all their friends. Just like a regular at a bar. Maybe you don't know their name but you see them around all the time and in a way, they are family.
I am sorry you are personally upset that their story is bringing up painful realities that you must face in the near future. And from me to you, I wish you, your friends and family good luck in the near future and I hope you will have the strength and courage to face whatever lies ahead.
I feel like you should be happy for the OP from which this thread spawned. As it stands, he is beating a dreaded monster that has you worried, I would think it would bring hope and inspiration that if someone you know by proxy can beat cancer, perhaps there is a slim chance those close and dear to you can as well.
If you can't find the silver lining, it is still good for this painful subject to be brought up. You need to get the pain and volatile emotions out while you can instead of keeping them hidden away until the day comes when you'll have to let them all go at once.
Yes. OR I can not think about it, which is easier. Also a valid defense mechanism, by the way. |

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Posted - 2014.07.02 16:14:00 -
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Anslo wrote:Ok then if Tippia is pissed off then you've REALLY dun goofed.
Meh. Blocked him a while ago and feel better not having to read his posts. He can do likewise. Tool exists for this exact purpose. |

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Posted - 2014.07.02 16:45:00 -
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Anslo wrote:LUMINOUS SPIRIT wrote:Anslo wrote:Ok then if Tippia is pissed off then you've REALLY dun goofed. Meh. Blocked him a while ago and feel better not having to read his posts. He can do likewise. Tool exists for this exact purpose. Then why didn't you do the same with the thread you didn't like?
why would i block that thread? i simply told the OP to keep personal stuff to himself and thats that.
Because what he did is digital equivalent of standing on a busy intersection downtown and yelling to everyone and noone in particular about something, does not matter what.
And when you do that, others have a right to either support you, or tell you to take it someplace else. Which I did. Crass and heartless someone said - that's subjective. To me its normal to keep personal issues to myself, and I find contrary behavior crass and heartless. Who is to say which is right and which is wrong? |

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Posted - 2014.07.02 17:05:00 -
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Anslo wrote:
EDIT: Sorry but my immature side needs to add this... Get rekt, nerd.
"Get rekd, nerd?" I haven't heard that phrase since university, and first or second term at that. What are you, 19? |

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Posted - 2014.07.02 17:11:00 -
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Anslo wrote:LUMINOUS SPIRIT wrote:Anslo wrote:
EDIT: Sorry but my immature side needs to add this... Get rekt, nerd.
"Get rekd, nerd?" I haven't heard that phrase since university, and first or second term at that. What are you, 19? I like how you avoided every other point in my previous post. But hey, had to throw you a bone I suppose. I'll take you ignoring my counter points and going pure ad hominem instead as a sign of your surrender.
Counter-points that begin with an insult and end with "Get rekd, nerd" tend to get discounted as trolling.
You might want to notice that out of respect for that cancer dude i left his tread and created this one, and that I havent insulted anyone here, even known trolls. A courtesy which is not reciprocated. |

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Posted - 2014.07.02 17:12:00 -
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Inxentas Ultramar wrote:Smart move OP. Didn't want to discuss cancer. Decided to light up GD with an offensive post about the very subject. No offense, but apart from a terribly egotistical human being I'm afraid you are also not the brightest of the bunch.  Sad day for GD.
Subject is keeping personal stuff, personal, and off the EVE GD Forums at least. Cancer or not, does not matter. |

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Posted - 2014.07.02 17:19:00 -
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Ralph King-Griffin wrote: yes you have and you know you have.
Whom? link post.
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Posted - 2014.07.02 17:32:00 -
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Marsha Mallow wrote:LUMINOUS SPIRIT wrote:You might want to notice that out of respect for that cancer dude i left his tread and created this one, and that I havent insulted anyone here, even known trolls. A courtesy which is not reciprocated. You've ignored the vast majority of posters, including those who have replied to your question without resorting to insults. I'm assuming because you have us all blocked. Calling people 'known trolls' is an insult  Not to join in the mob here, but whether deliberate or not you are persistently trolling by baiting people into exasperated replies. Either sort out the way you address people or take the well deserved verbal beating, but stop playing the victim please.
I replied to posts that have insightful opinions. Most others here are definitive opinions that do not need a reply, or anonomous alts that do not deserve a reply.
I only have a few people here blocked, so its not a big deal.
And you know, trying to protect my right not to be spammed by off-topic messages (however innocent) is not in my opinion baiting. |

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Posted - 2014.07.02 17:34:00 -
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Nat Silverguard wrote:with all due respect, F**K YOU OP!
Why? |

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Posted - 2014.07.02 17:41:00 -
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Anslo wrote:
It's funny to see you side step everything. My degree was in public relations (LOLIKNOWRIGHT?), and watching each of your posts is like watching an amateur PR specialist try to fix a publicity nightmare by blaming the public for being offended.
its funny to see you mirror Tippia's nitpicking style of trolling. One could be forgiven for mistaking you for his alt - or a wannabe.
And your counter-points are opinions not arguments. Nothing to reply to. |

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Posted - 2014.07.02 17:59:00 -
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Anslo wrote:Quote:And your counter-points are opinions not arguments. Nothing to reply to. No, they aren't. They are indeed facts and counterpoints to your vitriolic posting.
See, when every sentence you type has some sort of inflammatory remark woven into it, like in the above, 'vitriolic' - it automatically becomes an opinion.
But why am I telling you this, you have a degree and everything... You can spot PR amateurs from 1000 miles away, eagle-eyed specialist that you are. |

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Posted - 2014.07.02 18:05:00 -
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baltec1 wrote:OP just effectively slit their own throat.
I hope the post vacation is long and painful.
In what way do you think my post warrants a forum ban? |
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